resolution

I work with people who are stuck in conflict—often carrying hurt, fear, humiliation, or betrayal—who know that the current dynamic isn’t working, even if they don’t yet see a clear alternative.

I don’t start by putting people in a room and pushing for compromise. My approach is informed by international peace processes, counseling, and restorative dialogue, where trust is built first and agreements are designed over time.

I usually begin with individual conversations using shuttle diplomacy. This gives people space to speak freely about what they’ve been through, what they’re afraid of, what they want, and what still matters to them. Many people haven’t had a place to fully unpack those things, and until they do, it’s hard to think clearly about the future.

As trust builds, I help people move from being consumed by what happened to imagining what could be different. This doesn’t mean forcing agreement or asking anyone to abandon their perspective. It means reducing the emotional barriers that make cooperation feel impossible or humiliating.

Over time, we begin to identify overlap—shared values, workable priorities, and realistic options. From there, we design clear plans together, including what to do when conflict resurfaces, how decisions will be handled, and how the agreement will actually be lived out.

This process is usually lower pressure than a single-day mediation and often no more expensive. It’s structured differently so outcomes don’t depend on who is having a better day.

I work best when brought in early, alongside or before legal counsel. I don’t give legal advice or replace attorneys. I help people get to a place where they can participate in decisions with more clarity, stability, and ownership—so agreements have a real chance of holding.